Supporting yourself


“Too often in the helping fields, we focus on the immediate tasks at  hand and the intense human needs before us, rather than thinking of how we must take care of ourselves if ourself, the healing agent, is to thrive for the decades of our work” (Skovholt and Trotter-Mathison, 2011).

As a bereavement specialist it is important you know how to care for yourself and take time out to recharge your batteries.

There are many ways to prevent burnout and restore ease rather than stress.  True self-care involves looking after all aspects of our being including physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual.



Looking after yourself, physically, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually must be your highest priority!

There are plenty of courses offered in Ireland that help with such topics as dealing with stress, listening, mindfulness etc and these are posted in our Education and Training section.  Below is a selected of books and websites on the topic for further reading:

 Secondary Traumatic Stress Disorder in those who treat the traumatised Figley, C (1995)

Treating Compassion Fatigue Figley, C. (2001)

Burnout: the high cost of success Fredenberger, H (1980)

Full catastrophe living; how to cope with stress, pain and illness using mindfulness meditation Kabat-Zinn, Jon (2001)

When professionals weep  Katz, R. & Johnson, T. (2006)

Help for the Helper: The Psychophysiology of Compassion Fatigue and Vicarious Trauma  Rothschild, B. and Rand, M. (2006)

 Heal thy self. Lessons on Mindfulness in Medicine  Santorelli, S. (1999)

The resilient practitioner Skovholt, T & Trotter-Mathison, M. (2009) 

Overcoming secondary stress in medical and nursing practice : a guide to professional resilience and personal well-being  Wicks, R. (2006)

 Online resources


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